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Dealing With Online Criticism: Brushing It Off & Moving Forwards

My first personal run-in with online criticism occurred this week in a somewhat odd and unexpected fashion but unexpected is to be expected when it comes to me as I'm just a wild child and would rather not walk in a straight line. I've never been one to dish out hate online as (and correct me if I'm wrong) I feel it just clashes with The Resplendent Lioness brand I'm trying to build but at the same time I've never really received it either. Actually I take that back, I did feel personally attacked a handful of times when I had my Taylor Swift fan account back in 2014 whenever someone openly claimed that they didn't like her. 14 year old me was scared but down to fight when it came to being a Swiftie.

It was a roller-coaster of emotions the first 10 minutes after reading someones unnecessary and uneducated opinion on my blog in an online community help page but once I stepped off the ride and allowed my feet to hit solid ground again the hills didn't seem anywhere near as mighty.

My initial response was a mixed bag of lollies featuring sherbet shock, sucker sadness and pop rock doubt. Shocked and caught of guard that asking for help from strangers got the equivalent response of me asking for a public roast, sad that someone didn't like my content when I feel it's quite pleasant and the worst of all doubtful that maybe the content I was producing wasn't really that good?

Now we all know that someone sitting anonymously behind a computer writing terrible things about a person or their content with shocking grammar is not really worth throwing a tizzy about but it doesn't stop it from hitting a soft spot or causing a sting from time to time. For me, bringing myself back to feeling centered was a pretty simple process thankfully as all I had to do was step outside of myself and look at it like I would if I was giving advice to someone else.

Passing the initial stages of unpleasant feelings I was hit with a reminder that this comment compared to all the other lovely and uplifting ones I receive on a regular basis about my content does not really hold any weight at all. Hell, anyone can look at something for a split second and say 'this is nonsense' without really understanding what it is fully as it doesn't take talent to be ignorant. I also found it somewhat funny that someone said a self-love blog is a load of garbage because they probably need it the most and don't even realise it so we just wave to them where they're at and move on.

Coming to the conclusion that online criticism is only a mere bi-product of someone who doesn't value very much in life and certainly doesn't value themselves, you kind of just soften around the idea. It does not dismiss these acts and they certainly should not be tolerated but just knowing that if a person feels love they will show it, share it, plant it and be it but the same goes for those who feel the opposite too. This world is full of contrast as there has to be an opposite to something otherwise it wouldn't exist and unfortunately there is at this current point a polar point to feeling good and self-love which is where people who make online criticism sit.

It's not so much a mission or a point to prove but I do wish to see a world where there is a harmony reached where we are in such a state of love that you feel to damn good about yourself to rain on someones parade or your very own.

Have a good week my friends, Delilah


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  1. I agree with your statement that a person who feels love shows love in the things they say and do. Online criticism can hurt, but the reality of it is that this is a reflection of that person's character and not yours. If people could find better ways to address their problems instead of being cruel to others, we'd all be in a much better place.

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    1. Absolutely agree! Once we as humans get more in touch with our hurt and why we feel a certain way, we can get on board with being more progressive and inclusive rather than keeping stagnant and isolated!

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  2. I agree 100%. People who spend their time bashing others are generally very sad people and are compensating for something lacking within themselves. Like you said - brush it off and move on!

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    1. Yes! We should not let these kinds of comments dictate how we choose to feel or our next steps moving forward. Our time and energy is far too precious to subscribe to toxic beliefs that do not serve us.

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  3. Any criticism can come across as unhelpful because social media is very much like writing an email. Tone means everything. I think criticism can be helpful - help us see another side. But when it gets toxic or very personal or hateful, move on. That person clearly has an issue with another person's viewpoint. Which is sad for them.

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    1. I personally am not a fan of criticism as it's not an act of building up rather tearing down. I do believe seeking guidance and help is a wonderful way to grow and aid expansion of who you are and your craft but as long as you're doing it on your own terms! Thanks for your comment Heather!

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  4. I love this! Hurtful comments and outright hate are something I too have encountered. One has to feel for the people leaving them, however briefly, how lonely and sad their lives must be if they derive joy from sitting behind a screen and failing to see how much work and care went into each piece a person creates.

    I brush it off and move on; it is hard to stay happy thinking about those people. They exist but they ARE toxic!

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    1. I'm so glad this resonated with you Jaya! You are correct when saying it is hard to stay happy thinking of these people and these comments so it is therefore not out of a place of love to keep them active in our minds! The act of love is to let them go and keep on track with our own bliss.

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